Saturday, March 19, 2016

Dear Adewale

Dear Adewale, my name is Jerome and I read your posts all the time and they really bless me. I need urgent advise on my marriage. My wife and I had a serious disagreement last week and we began to hurl insults and call each other lots of unprintable names. Shortly after we resolved the issue but both of us are still hurt. I am the man so I should be the one to make sure that things are amicable between us again. What should I do?

Dear Jerome, thank you so much for your kind words and for reaching out to me. The first thing you need to understand is that you and your better half will have fights and disagreements, they are healthy so don't beat yourself over it, the challenge is not knowing how to resolve the issues amicably. I will outline certain things to do that will ensure that you and your wife are happier and your relationship is better.

1. Apologize; don't wait for her to apologise, be the man no matter what happens. Don't see it as a game when someone has to win and the other has to lose. The moment you apologise, she will also apologise as well, lead the change you want to see.

2. Talk about the problem: when tensions have been doused, talk about the situation and know what it was that  turned a little argument into a world war.

3. Make up sex:  make up sex is a healer, it removes the remnants of any resentment and makes the love you feel for each other stronger.  The bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:5 (NIV)

Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The longer you guys stay without sex after a fight, the easier it is for the devil to creep in again.

I hope these points will help you. Thank you.

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1 comment:

  1. Good advice.
    And numbers one and two works for every kind of dispute not only marital ones.
    The truth is dispute must occur. How and if you settle it is what is important.

    My married boss shared a story of how he and his wife were on bad terms even though they were stil attending church.
    To his surprise, his pastor during service, told the congregation that for that Service,all what God had told him to do was that God had sent him to a particular couple in the church who were on bad terms and barely speaking.
    He described exactly what was going on in the house to the extent that both of them accused each other of telling the pastor. But it was neither of them.
    it was the Holy Spirit who saw the damage being done to that family by Satan through that quarrel.