"Daddy it's Daniel again o, now he comes back home around 12 midnight and when I ask him where he is coming from, he will just ignore me, I am tired of this marriage daddy". Kate whined.
Nathaniel was tired of settling quarrels between his daughter and her husband and he knew that if he wanted his daughter's marriage to last, he had to make a decision. "I want to see you and your husband tomorrow morning".
Kate was happy, she had been trying to get her father to talk to her husband about some of his behaviours and for the first time, it seemed as though, actions would finally be taken.
The next morning, Daniel and Kate sat before Nathaniel and he said to them "Kate told me about the challenges she's facing with you, I am sure both of you will find a way to work things out. I have an advice for both of you, from this moment on, whenever you call me, let it be it's because you just built your house or you just won a contract or because something good just happened to both of you. I don't want any of you to report each other to me, if you don't heed my advice, I will not be happy with the both of you"
Daniel and Kate were shocked but now they knew they couldn't run to anybody except each other. Daniel's parents were deceased and Kate's mother was deceased as well. From that moment, they settled their disagreements amicably and their marriage began to bloom.
The biggest cancer to any relationship and marriage is the 3rd party factor. Stop reporting each other to family members! Learn to settle things by yourself. 80% of the people you wash your dirty linen in front of do not really care about you, your rantings and nagging just amuses them.
Don't think you are showing the faults of the other person, you are also showing that your judgement is poor by marrying or dating him/ her. Whenever you report your spouse, you are revealing your inability to lead and your level of maturity as well.
The bible says in Genesis 2: 24 (NLT)This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
You and your husband/wife are one. It is IMPOSSIBLE to hurt him/her and not hurt yourself. Whenever you reveal his/her faults you are revealing your own faults as well. Whoever you marry is the most important decision of your life, you must be prepared to make it work no matter what it takes! Your marriage is worth fighting for, don't let it rot, fight for it!
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