Bisi hissed and walked away with tears in her eyes. For the first 2 years of their marriage, she had honoured and revered her husband, he was as a god in her eyes but all that came crashing down when she caught him cheating with an ex girlfriend.
Tunde had always been a devout christian, he didn't even sleep with any woman before he got married, he had served God faithfully and God blessed the work of his hands. At 31, he was a multi millionaire with businesses all over the world. That was when the problem started, he had met an ex girlfriend on his trip to Dubai, they hung out and reminisced about the past and before he knew what was happening, he had committed adultery.
He tried to stop but he couldn't help himself , his trips to dubai became very regular and his wife started suspecting something was wrong. She decided to trail him to Dubai and caught him red handed.
Not only had he sinned against God but now he had lost the love and respect of the woman who believed in him from the beginning.
What can Tunde do to get right with God and prove to his wife that he has changed?
1. Confess that sin to God and repent: you must go to God in prayer and ask him to forgive you and help you. God is merciful and He will cleanse you. You must not also condemn yourself, this is very important.
2. Submit to a mentor or a pastor: the last person you need at this stage is a self righteous person who will judge you. Find someone who shares the same spiritual beliefs with you and whom you can trust and then confide in the person.
3. Be accountable to your wife; it will take a long time to build back trust and in some cases, even forever but work hard at accountability. Let her know where you are at a particular time, if possible travel with her as much as possible, let her hold your phones and pick your calls; remove the passwords. Be sincere with her, let her know the challenges you are facing. She will pray for you and help you.
May God bless our homes in Jesus name.
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