Leke and Titi Adeboye advise on sex before marriage

Pre-marital sex is a big issue for Christians, even when you meet the right woman, you still have to resist temptations and most times it is not easy. I had to stay off sex for four years before I married my wife, thank God for His grace. This is why I thought to share this interview that was culled from www.oneplustheone.com with our viewers all over the world.

Leke Adeboye is the son of Pastor E.A. Adeboye, the  General Overseer of Redeemed Christian Church of God. Leke and his wife Titilope share about their beautiful marriage and how they abstained from sex till marriage. Enjoy...

Thank you so much for agreeing to do this! It’s a delight to be able to hear your story and more importantly, share to bless people. Could we please start off with a brief introduction?

Leke: My wife is Titilope Adeboye.How do I introduce this fine hot lady? Forget that she’s my wife, she runs me! She’s my Manager, I call her my CEO. She’s my account manager, she runs my entity as a personality and then she runs a number of businesses – Oasis Suya Eatery and Sharwama and she’s also the owner of Mimi’s Confectionery.


My wife is multi-skilled and multi-talented and takes every advantage to improve herself. Whatever she sets her mind on, she would do it! And she can do it! I am proud of that and I basically support, support support! She studied Mass Communication in the University and got a First Class from behind a 2:1 (laughter).

I take responsibility for that, it was actually my fault! She had actually made up her mind not to go into any relationship with anyone until she finished University. But me, I saw a good thing and jumped in!

So I guess I caused a bit of a distraction (I’m sorry baby!). She followed it up with a Masters in International Business at Loughborough University. She’s a mother of one (well actually 2, our baby and I, LOL). She is amazing and has done a fantastic job of it!
And yeah, she’s hot as in hot!

Titi: My name is Titilope Adeboye. I am a child of the most High God. A wife and mum. I would describe myself as a very simple person really. I love to read, bake, travel and have fun with my family. Whether it’s watching movies with my husband or singing *Twinkle Twinkle Little Star* with my daughter (LOL). I love doing it all. I am the CEO of Mimi’s Confectionery and I also manage my husband’s eateries.

How would I describe my husband? Oluwagbemileke temi nikan is just a sweetheart, an incurable romantic. He is so fun and charming and never believes anything is impossible. He is my adviser, motivator and so much more. I just love this man and I thank God for him every day.

How does one respond to that? (LOL) okay, going straight to next question, how did you meet?

Titi: Well, it was in my third year in University. His mum always made sure I had a meal from their home on Sundays, and whenever she was around, she would ask about school and all – she is sweet like that. I wasn’t the only one she did that to though. My parents were not in Nigeria at that time and Mummy (as I refer to her) was just trying to make sure I was okay.

So this particular Sunday, I went to dinner in his house, I was in a hurry because I had a test the next day. I came in through the gate and noticed that he was standing there talking to a couple of people and everyone was laughing, I just greeted everyone. That was the first time I saw him, I didn’t know him then at all. 

When I was leaving the house, I heard someone running after me and I saw that it was him. He stopped me and said “Hi, I was just told you are Pastor Odesola’s daughter. I didn’t know Pastor Odesola had a grown-up daughter. He used to be my mentor”and he just kept on talking about my dad! Then he said "I am really pleased to meet you. Can I have your number so I can check up on you” – I gave him my number and left. That was how we met really. He was just like a big brother.

From “Hi” to “I Do”

Titi: Honestly, I did not think that we would end up married or anything! I just found him so funny, no dull moment at all, he just lights up the room. But I didn’t see him like that. He was like my brother I loved him that way. In fact when he asked me to marry him, I didn’t see that coming. I was just shocked and I said no. 

First, I had plans, I wanted to do this and that before I even considered anyone, then ‘Leke’? Really?! Pastor Adeboye’s son! All eyes on me; no, no! I love my simple life, thank you very much. I didn’t even want to pray about it, just in case God said ‘Yes’ (LOL) Can you imagine that? He asked me to at least pray about it. I later decided to pray about it, fasted, and sought counsel from my mum and dad.

It took a bit of work to change my mindset. Then one day, he said to me. “Your life doesn’t end when you become my wife, it just continues with me in it. You can still do everything you want, and as long as we are doing the right things, acceptable to God, I don’t care what anyone thinks or says”.

It was as if I had never heard that before. I saw a man that loved and cared and would stand up for his wife any day. I thought it was absolutely sweet. Honestly, today I can definitely say Leke is my perfect man, he gets me, knows me big time.

Were you tempted?

Titi: Yes of course! This man that I really loved; with his sweet charming self and eyes that are just beautiful. Sometimes I just thank God we were not alone (that’s all I’m saying!) . Honestly, practical measures. Don’t be alone for too long, speak on the phone, text, go on dates in public places, watch that movie in the cinema instead of his or your bedroom. Don’t tempt the devil to tempt you.

Amen to that! So, what would you say to young people who say waiting before marriage is ‘old-school’ or unachievable in this day and age?

Well I would say that it’s a wrong perspective. We sometimes let emotions run wild. Let me paint a picture, if a cute mad person, male or female, as in really crazy fellow with knives and all says, “Darling I love you, I want to have sex with you”, will you run or stay? I bet you will be disgusted, embarrassed and run too. That’s how we should feel about sin. We need to be different as children of God, shine the light, in obedience to God. What made Joseph in the bible stand out was because he was different – he refused to defile himself with his Master’s wife (You can read about this in Gen 39:1-23). It’s not just even in the area of sexual sin alone, but also in everything else. Having that spirit of excellence like Daniel and the three Hebrew boys. For me, I’m thinking “If I do this, will Jesus commend my actions, thoughts or words?” (Philippians 4:8). Please, don’t be pressured into doing what is wrong. 

Sometimes, it’s not an easy price to pay. But I can tell you that the benefits are immeasurable. And for anyone waiting for that perfect partner, Jesus is never too late. Please don’t sell yourself short – It is better to enjoy a lifetime of bliss than just one wedding day and the rest is hell!
Being married has its ups and downs but God has been there for us through it all, I can testify!