This question is an offshoot of my experience. As you know, I got married very recently and we had to go through the three ceremonies; the court wedding, the traditional wedding and the white wedding. We had the court wedding on December 5, 2013 and the traditional and white wedding on February 15, 2014. Although friends and family members knew about the court wedding, many would still ask why I was wearing a wedding band. I was married but there was no acceptance until the traditional and white wedding on February 15.
Many believe that once you say "I do" either in court, traditional or in a church ceremony you are married while others believe that as a christian, God does not recognise your marriage if it is not blessed by your pastor. I would love to have your opinion on this matter. It will help a lot of people. Many men wish to get married but when they think of the financial implication of these ceremonies; they back down and begin to believe God for the big money before they make the move. These could take years. Does God really care about how you get married?